"I paid for sneakers when I should have paid attention…."
A thoughtful, yet direct, guide for Black fathers who want to improve their relationships with their children.
Carl Stokes intertwines his own successes and failures as a young Black father with 12 easy steps to help you overcome your struggles and prioritize the things that matter most.
Stokes presents these topics in a reassuring way and teaches a critical message—mistakes do not define you. And when relationships seem broken, they can be repaired.
Once you take this journey and implement these steps, your pathway through fatherhood will become clear—and you’ll have the tools necessary for building healthy bonds with your children.

A Straightforward Guide for Black Fathers to Improve Themselves and Their Relationships with Their Children

Reclaim Your Visibility

Credit Where Credit is Due

Opening & Dedication

This Book is for You My Brother

Introduction (free sample)

Take the Pledge

Step One 

Take Personal Responsibility

Step Two 

Realize Your Power

Step Three 

Presence Over Presents

Step Four 

Understand Pulchritude

Step Five 

Stop Advertising Your Problems

Step Six 

Keep Your Promises

Step Seven 

Practice Self-Care

Step Eight 

Let Go of the Past

Step Nine 

Get Rid of Pollution

Step Ten 

Rebuild With the Right People

Step Eleven 

Plan and Execute

Step Twelve 

Our Children Are Royalty

Conclusion

To Those Who Made it Happen

Acknowlegdements